Masturbation and Sexual Desire

Sexual Desires

Sexual desires are an important part of God’s plan for men and women. But Satan always tries to derail God’s plans and use them to destroy people rather than bless them. This is especially true in this area. In this article we want to understand what the Bible tells us about purity and how this should or should not be expressed in our lives especially as it relates to the subject of masturbation.

Sexual desires usually begin in puberty. The age of puberty can vary substantially but normally takes place during a person’s early teens. Girls can face this up to several years earlier than boys. In the best of all worlds, this doesn’t need to create a serious problem. Children should be taught enough about themselves that they understand what is happening to them. Parents should teach them about the Biblical standard of purity so they have a reason to avoid experimentation.

However, this world leaves a lot to be desired. Parents don’t always do their part. Peers sometimes share knowledge that children could handle better once they are more mature. Occasionally they stumble into discoveries that lead to a regular practice of masturbation or other moral failures. Unfortunately, the more that sexual desires are gratified through masturbation and immorality, the stronger they grow. They can become almost uncontrollable, as many people can testify.

In 1 Corinthians 7, Paul speaks to this. The first sixteen verses of this chapter speak about marriage and sexual desire within marriage. However, Paul realized that there were cases where a man or woman was married, and then their partner died. He advised such people to remain unmarried. But he also knew that sexual desires could be very strong, especially for those who were accustomed to regularly experiencing this release. Because of this, he gave permission for remarriage. The way he worded this is interesting and tells us something about sexual desire. He said, in verse 9, that if they cannot exercise self-control, let them marry. For it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” (1 Corinthians 7:9)

While he doesn’t explicitly name masturbation in this passage, he seems to be referring to it when he speaks of having self-control. The term, burn with passion, is very descriptive of what many people face. For instance, one girl called our phone team begging for help and prayer. She felt that she just couldn’t give up her immoral relationship. Yet she realized that it was wrong, so she wondered about getting release from her desires by masturbation. When the advisor tried to help her see that this really wasn’t an answer, she almost cried. “Why does God torture me like this?” she asked. In other words, why does God give her these strong desires, then tell her it is wrong to fulfill them.

The problem is that a misused sexual desire grows exponentially in strength, and she was “burning with passion” because she had let her desires gain control of her. It was part of the reaping for the life she was living.

The hippies in the 1960s and 70s had a story that explained this problem.

One day a young man was walking through the jungle and found a baby monkey. It was cute and friendly, so he took it with him and taught it to ride on his shoulder. He would feed it bananas and they became good friends. The young man enjoyed the relationship and the monkey did too.

But the monkey kept growing as time went on. It became bigger and heavier. Finally, one day the young man decided that he would like to eat a banana himself. So, he peeled it and took a bite. But the monkey squealed angrily and reached down and took the banana from the young man. After that the monkey was in control and what had been a pleasure to the young man became bondage. Soon the monkey was demanding more and even more bananas as the young man stumbled miserably down the jungle trails.

Lust and Passion

Desire by itself is not sin. But James 1:15 tells us that “when desire has conceived, it gives birth to sin.” A desire can very easily lead to sin. Like other God-given desires, sexual desires can get out of control.

We call such an out-of-control sexual desire lust. The Bible uses the word lust many times. In Matthew 5:28, Jesus said, “whoever looks at a woman to lust for her has already committed adultery with her in his heart.” At this point the natural desire has intensified to the point of becoming a sin. It controls your thoughts as you look at a woman walking past or sitting across the table. It has become a “burning passion.” (This is also true of women lusting after men, and people lusting after someone of the same sex.)

Lust can easily lead to masturbation and makes it sinful. By then the person is burning with passion and there is no stopping them.

Many innocent things beyond our control can stir up our natural desires. If it stops at that and we keep our desires under control, the desire can drain harmlessly away. But if we allow our thoughts to get out of control or start fantasizing about a picture or a person that we have seen, then we are letting lust control us. Watching porn or reading explicit literature will do the same.

Unfortunately, lust and passion can get a terrible grip on us. Like the story of the monkey illustrates, what we once did for pleasure ends up becoming an uncontrollable bondage.

Sexual Desire and Marriage

God has given us marriage as a legitimate outlet for sexual desire. But even within marriage, sexual desire can be misused.  For instance, I Corinthians 7 makes it clear that each marriage partner is responsible to consider the desire of their partner, not just their own.  The man who initiates marital intimacy primarily to please himself is selfish.  But the man who is concerned about pleasing his wife fulfills the truth being taught in this passage.

This passage also makes it clear that married people should not feel guilty about their intimate relationships. In fact, it clearly tells them not to defraud each other. If a husband and wife heed these verses, both of them will have little reason to struggle with the temptation of masturbation.

Sexual Desire and Being Single

The last part of 1 Corinthians 7 speaks to unmarried people. Paul makes it clear that marriage is not wrong. He also states that a person who stays single will be able to serve God in a way that married people often can’t. Service in the work of the Lord is possible within either reality.

The Christian who stays single is married to God, in a sense. He can use all his energies to serve God. In fact, because he is not using his sex drive for its normal purpose, he will have more energy to devote to God’s work. Masturbation, on the other hand, will deplete this strength. It will divert his thoughts from pleasing God to pleasing himself. Lust will fill his thoughts, and he will find himself in spiritual bondage, burning with passion, and overwhelmed with lust and guilt.

The Bible has no passage that says, “Thou shalt not masturbate.” But the Christian single needs to dedicate his (or her) life to God and not steal the “strength of their youth” from God for selfish gratification.

“Be an example of the believers… in purity” (1 Timothy 4:12)

Freedom!

Today, people tend to look at sexual gratification as being a right rather than a privilege. The idea that self-gratification is a sin is resisted by much of society. This is the concept that leads to promoting the LGBT agenda, transgender practices, acceptance of divorce and remarriage, recreational sex, and masturbation.

In reality, however, the need to allow God to control our desires is very important in the Christian life. Almost all God-given desires are wrong if they aren’t controlled. Most of them are too much for us to handle on our own. The help of friends and family is necessary and very beneficial, but even more than that, we need God’s help. When we give the control of our lives over to Him, we can enjoy freedom from sin and the peace of living in His will.

“Create in me a clean heart, O God,
And renew a steadfast spirit within me” (Psalms 51:10)

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77 Comments

  1. Im a little confused by this. Why does it say in the word not to deny each other if it is only for the other person? I understand the ultimate selfless love ideal you are trying to communicate but its really a stretch and I know the Lord wants us to make a stretch but this appears to possibly be some personal ideal interjection because if it is it actually could make people feel more hopeless about marriage meeting the need that they feel. It did me.

  2. This article has helped me a lot. I have struggled with masturbation most of my life since puberty. I am now married for 6 years and have 3 kids. My husband is deployed for a year and left at the beginning of this month. I had been so busy with the kids and church that i hadn’t even thought of sex until a few days ago. And when the urge hit, it hit hard. And sure enough i found myself masturbating for no reason. I repented to God and said i would do my best to not fall victim again. But just as sin works, i got a video call from my husband and he expressed that he had been having urges too. Needless to say there was some phone-sex involved. I hate to be so vulgar but i really need some clarity. I felt horrible immediately afterwards. I guess my question would be what is a married and very devoted Christian to do when sexual urges take over in the marriage and both spouses are not near each other?

    • This is a tough question. But Paul addressed it in a sense in the first part of 1 Corinthians 7. Your sexual desire is intended to be used to fulfil your husbands desire, and your husband’s to fulfill yours. Paul went on to say, don’t defraud each other. But if you can’t be together devote yourself to prayer during that time and then come back together. I’m probably stretching this, but I don’t see Paul saying that your husband can give you permission to masturbate, or the other way around. Paul ends his statement in v. 5 by warning that Satan will tempt you because of a lack of self-control. You’ve experienced this. Could you share your feelings with your husband? And then the two of you could commit yourselves to celibacy until he returns?

  3. Hi, I’m 29 years Old Korean Male Christian.
    (Sorry for my lack of english)
    If sex desire is God’s bless that limited to married christian, there’s no way that unmarried christian resolve their desire.
    Bible says If someone can’t control your sex desire,
    let them marry, so they can resolve esire through god’s blessed plan.
    But I don’t know if it’s right to marry only for the purpose of relieving one’s desires.
    As Bible says in 1 Timothy 4:12,
    to unmarried christian,
    There’s no room for sexual desire
    (even If it’s just self masturbation)
    If someone who is Christian has no intention of getting married, he or she must endure their desire during the rest of their life.
    Sex desire is God’s blessed desire,
    So It must be resolved by married relationship
    that God intended.
    I think that’s Bible’s perspective.
    Perhaps the reason why there is no direct reference of masturbation in the Bible is that God has given man free will.
    And I’m Male Christian who has no intention of getting married, so I make a resolve that I will endure this desire until end of my life.
    I think this point is very cruel, but I understand.
    But sometimes I feel like I’m not living man by this
    point.(I mean, living but dead man)
    What dedicate my everything and power means
    there’s no more my life,
    My body died, and The Holy Spirit of God lives in Me.
    So Isn’t this mean that There’s no more my
    room to enjoy my secular hapiness?
    Of course I know that God lead me to this point
    to let me free of secular hapiness,
    and lead me to real hapiness.
    But also this situation makes me a compulsive man
    that cannot afford to spare about this world.
    Is it really true that Christian doesn’t have his own freedom without guility?
    Still confused.
    Please share your opinion.

    • You might want to read 1 Corinthians 7. Paul gives some general guidance about some of these subjects. He might not use the word masturbation but I think he refers to it several times throughout the chapter. It is fairly clear that marriage is the godly way to find release from these desires. I know this is easy for a married man to say but much harder to put into practice when you are single. But the Bible also refers to people making themselves eunuchs for the sake of Christ. I think this means that they deprive themselves of sex and marriage so they can serve Christ better. [see Matthew 19:12]

  4. I am a young Christian woman and I live with my boyfriend due to financial hardship on my end and my boyfriend was gracious enough to allow me to stay with him and does not charge me anything. We both attend church and are strong in our faith. I love the car rides we take just listening to Christian music or speaking of the gospel together. However, since we live together- you can only imagine what happens. We aren’t married, but do have plans to. I feel like we are so deep in our desire for sex that it’s unstoppable. As a woman that wants to please God and be a good disciple. With premarital counseling involved of course, should we move our plans sooner to end this sinful act? This has been a very hard thing for me to even think about, but I must be true to myself and must take action to please God for all. God has been such a blessing in my life and my sins make me feel so shameful for all that He has done for me.

    • Thanks for taking the step to share your battle. Jesus said, “If your hand or your foot causes you to fall away, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or lame than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into the eternal fire. And if your eye causes you to fall away, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hellfire” (Mat 18:8-9 CSB). I don’t think He was saying that we should mutilate ourselves. But I do think He was saying, “Do whatever it takes to find victory.” That will include moving out and finding a different place to live. If your boy friend genuinely loves you and is a Christian, he will understand why you need to do this, and will give you the help you need. I would also advise getting counselling from a Bible believing pastor (too many pastors don’t fit that description anymore, unfortunately). I would put your relationship to this test first, because it may not be what you think it is. But Paul also said that it is better to marry than to burn [with passion]. I don’t think long courtships are a good idea, necessarily. (If you want to ask more questions, drop a note to this discussion and I’ll send you an email address.)

  5. Hello,
    I am 19 years old.
    I can’t blame God for the choices that I made. I just think God won’t bless me the same anymore because of my sins. Can He? But just to enter heaven and be with Him is the only thing I should desire.

    Thank you for your post, it really encouraged me to stay pure and holy for God.

  6. Hello!
    I’m so glad I found this page and I won’t be shy at all to pour out my heart here ’cause I know your advice will be a great blessing to me. I’m 21 years old and a child of God but struggling with sexual sin and masturbation as well. I was abused twice when I was 8 years old and a couple of years later after the incident,I started masturbating without someone telling me what masturbation is i.e it came naturally at a very young age and it hasn’t stopped since then despite my prayers and efforts.
    I know is a sin but I just can’t get myself to stop. I sometimes weep and blame God for allowing those boys to do that to me and I feel like giving up on God ’cause I’m not able to live a life that pleases God.
    I’m not consistent in my work with God because of this bad experience.
    The thing is, I’ve never agaged willfully in sexual intercourse but when the thought of the pass of being abused come to my mind,it drives me crazy.
    Please what can be the way out of this situation?

    • Life can be very difficult for adults who are introduced to sexual sin as children, before they even know what it is. By the time they understand that what they are doing is wrong, they are already enslaved by powerful desires. But I believe that even in such situations the power of God is greater than the powers of our bodies. In Romans 7 Paul wrote about the power of the law of sin and death in our bodies and the hopelessness we experience when we are under its control. In the next chapter, however, he speaks about the power and joy we experience when we allow the Spirit of life in Jesus to set us free from the law of sin. The he goes on to contrast between people who have their minds set on the things of the flesh and those who set their minds on the things of the Spirit. I’m sure that by now you are saying, “I want to set my mind on the things of the Spirit. I want to turn my back on the things of the flesh. BUT HOW DO I DO THAT?” The point is that we can’t. Not in our own strength. We need to open our hearts to God completely, and beg Him to take over. He knows we don’t have the power to do this on our own. Read your Bible, especially the New Testament. Start with the Gospels and ask God to show you His way. Ask Him to guide you and give you strength. Find a Christian friend–preferably one who is older than you–and ask her to walk with you and keep you accountable. Study the Bible together. Pray together. Go to church together. Worship God together. The contrast between Romans 7 and Romans 8 is the difference between defeat and victory. It seems that something happens between the two chapters. It may vary from person to person, but it includes giving up control of our life and giving that control to God. He CAN and He WILL, but very few people are able to overcome addictions without help from others.

    • I struggle with sexual sin often and it’s mounting like a mountain and overflowing like a fountain. It’s getting stronger and growing legs and I want to fully surrender this god in my life to the God of my life but I seem not to ever choose God in the moment. Yes I’ve heard flee from sin but this thing is so tough. I have awaken love before it’s time and I am burning with passion. Any one who reads this please pray or reach out to me. I’m 23 and single a male that desires to please God and love in freedom.

      • @Edwin “I have awakened love before it’s time and I am burning with passion.” This is a good way to say what happens to so many young people. God gives us these desires for good reason. They give us vitality and purpose in life. But when they get out of control they multiply exponentially and become burning passions that destroy us. Jesus taught an interesting concept in Matthew 18:8, 9.

        “If your hand or your foot causes you to fall away, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life maimed or lame than to have two hands or two feet and be thrown into the eternal fire. And if your eye causes you to fall away, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to enter life with one eye than to have two eyes and be thrown into hellfire.” (Mat 18:8-9 CSB)

        I’m not suggesting that you need to literally cut off body parts. I think Jesus is saying, “Do what ever it takes to find victory.” Maybe join a Bible study and accountability group. (If you don’t of one, start one. I’m sure you know other people facing similar problems.) Speak with a Christian counsellor or pastor. You DO NOT NEED TO LIVE IN MISERY, and God doesn’t want you to. Pray, fast, get rid of your TV and internet if that is what it takes. I think you get the idea. Blessings as you face this battle head on.

  7. Thank you guys for the fruitful sharing.

  8. When God originally created every type of thing and being he did, the only thing he said wasn’t good was being alone. This doesn’t mean just being without other humans, because after Adam and Eves first meeting it states that for this reason shall people be married and the two become one flesh, referring to us being made male and female. The reason was not to reproduce more friends of the same race, animals reproduce without marriage. What makes marriage unique is the intimacy, it’s purpose is itself. Creation was not very good until marriage was made, because there was nothing more needed to improve anything. There are parts God made that are used only for reproduction and sexual pleasure. So why did Paul write that marriage divides interest in serving God, and why did Jesus say that being celibate is a service to God, when talking to the disciples about marriage? Isn’t pleasing a spouse already a service to God, since he ordained it?

    • Hi Eric. Paul stated in one place that it is not wrong to be married but because of the intense persecution they were facing, it would be easier for an unmarried person than a married one. I’m not sure that I can explain why Paul seemed a bit negative towards marriage. However, even though marriage is good, it is not the ultimate in life. The ultimate in life is serving God and if marriage keeps us from serving God, then it would be better not to marry. God honors a godly marriage. He even used it as a type of Christ and the Church. I feel that we need to take all of these passages together in order to come up with a balanced position.

    • Please help me. My husband and I have been married 30 years now. A few years ago I hit a sexual peak and he was very excited. As a Christian I have always wanted to please my husband and have never turned away from him but lately he has required more of me in ways that I am not used too. Fantasies, anal, and more – pushing into bdsm. He wants us to watch porn together too. He was never into this stuff before but he does take pills now to help him. At what point do I say no or do I? Since I am to satisfy him as his wife, and he is not physically hurting me, do I allow him to enjoy my body the way he wants too?
      Thank you for the article. He does want me to masturbate though. He will message me during the day and tell me I should for him. It is all rather confusing and I find myself lying to him telling him I did. Or when he wants to do something I am worried that I think is sin I act sick and tired, again lying to him. I have tried to speak to him but he reminds me of these same verses and how we are to please each other.

      • The time will come that you will not be able to satisfy him. It is taking more and more, and when a man needs to depend on porn and twisted methods to find pleasure, sooner or later his wife will no longer be able to provide it for him. He will keep looking for new ways. I appreciate your attitude towards this, but you are going to need to draw a line. Ask him to accompany you for marriage counselling, but be sure that you find a good, Christian counsellor. Your husband is using his Bible to coerce you into doing what he wants, for his pleasure. Those verses were never intended for that. He isn’t thinking of you at all. Would you feel comfortable speaking with your pastor or his wife about this? [Preferably both of them together.] —LB

        • No, I can’t speak to them about this. We have tried marriage counseling. He doesn’t watch porn without me. His job is too busy for that and when he is home he is always with me. He can have sex without it too. I thought at first he was addicted to porn but that doesn’t seem to be the case. He wants me addicted to him and his fantasies. He begs me to fantasize with him and asks me to write them down so he can read them. It is so confusing. My body says yes, my heart wants to please the man I love but my brain keeps telling me no.

        • I’m too far removed from the situation to give good advice, I’m afraid. But something doesn’t feel right about his obsession with sex. He shouldn’t be asking you to go against your conscience like that. God never intended for women to become sex toys. I still think it would be best if you could somehow get a third party involved, but if that isn’t possible, then you will need to open up to him again and explain what he is doing to you. I’ll pray for you and your husband. God does have answers for our needs, and I’m sure he has an answer for you. —LB

  9. My beautiful wife of 54years, died suddenly. [REDACTED] I miss and think of her as the greatest wife ever. I miss sex with her a great deal. Can I use penis pump to get hard and masturbate thinking of her. Is that against God’s wishes?

    • The Bible says that when a man and woman have sex, she has power over his body and he has power over hers. God’s plan is for your pleasure to be under the control of your wife and hers to be under your control. Masturbation bypasses this and will never satisfy you, and is not God’s plan for you.

  10. I’m a 21 yo single christian woman. Oh how I love the Lord but can’t seem to apply that in my life. God has done so many great things in my life that even when I don’t feel like doing a devotional, I still thank him for his goodness. I have recently been struggling with sexual desires so bad that I’m starting to be scared of being alone. I’ve always had a high sex drive but I’ve been able to control and ignore it. I slipped a couple of times but asked for forgiveness and moved on. but recently, when I started taking my relationship with God more seriously, my sex drive sky rocketed. I masturbate and fantasize about guys more often. I hate it and feel terribly guilty afterwards. I don’t wanna get married or be in a relationship now because I know my motives now are not to glorify God but to release my urges and God forbid that I actually end up doing that. I desperately want a relationship with Jesus because my life away from him can get messy and unfulfilling. I’ve tasted the goodness of God and I want nothing more than that. Please, help me, I feel like I’m drowning.
    I would very much love to join the whatsapp help group.

  11. As a teenager how can I overcome lust and masturbation

    • Here’s a few ideas.
      * Make sure that your relationship with God is intact and alive
      * Find some accountability partners to help you
      * Watch what you read or watch, even on the news
      * Have a meaningful Bible reading and prayer time. Write meaningful verses and impressions on a paper and carry it in your pocket to reread during the day.
      * Involve your father in your battle.

    • You can overcome lusts and masturbation by crucifying your flesh always. Let prayers,meditation of the word of God and fasting become your habit.

  12. The problem of sexual sin is greatly increased and exacerbated among single Christians in the U.S. today because marriage is being put much further off and is often not even on the radar until well over a decade of burning sexual desires. Of course I’m not advocating premature marriage or just getting married solely because of one’s sexual desires, but at the same time this type of attitude towards marriage and it happening at crazy late ages is largely unprecedented, in terms of it not being heard of in most other parts of the world and in previous generations. I think the point of Paul’s passage on this is that since most men and women will have natural sex drives during / after puberty, they should be thinking of or seeking marriage in order to refrain from sexual immorality. This is also the attitude adopted by Jews and Muslims in the U.S. and in other parts of the world, and for the same reason. But for whatever very odd reason, Christians in the U.S. have almost completely lost this and have assumed a very unrealistic view on this issue. There’s a reason Paul didn’t tell single Christians who are likely to fall into sexual sin to just control and ignore their sexual desires, because he knew that wasn’t sustainable and largely impossible, given that these desires are a God-instilled natural part of being an adult for most people. And yet that is the message of most Christians in the U.S. nowadays to the many, many single Christians struggling with sexual sin, instead of placing a proper focus on marriage, which is the more realistic solution to this problem and what Paul wrote about. And which is the solution that people from other Abrahamic religions focus on, and rightfully so. It’s naive and very unrealistic to assume that later and later marriages are not greatly increasing the number of single Christians who are regularly falling into sexual sin~

    • I totally agree with you! I keep pushing guys or anything close to relationships away because I’m 21 and feel like I’m too young and not ready at all. I am however struggling with lust and burning desires. I know very well that that is not a good reason to get married and I want to focus on God first and know that I’m not entitled to marriage in the first place. It is a really hard place to be in, especially knowing that I can’t just marry some guy for the sake of release. But that I have to wait and meet the right person.
      The pressure that I’m too young in our culture makes me wonder if I’m gonna have to wait until I’m like 30😲

      • Hey,
        Are you the same girl who published a comment under Natalya on April 22? I’m also 21 – funny that we’re the same age! Thank you for sharing your thoughts. I also struggle with masturbation as well. Even though I don’t have a strong sex drive 24/7, I do at certain points during my cycle. I hate that most resources about this issue are directed towards male sexuality, which is triggered by external stimuli and visual stuff, when that’s often not the case for women. For women it arises primarily based off our cycle and hormones. So saying to just stop looking at triggers that further sexual desire doesn’t work for women especially, and I feel many single Christians in general can’t control their sexual desires because it’s a particularly difficult area to control, since it’s a biological urge as well. Often they can be controlled for some period of time, and then the repression builds up and it becomes uncontrollable. Regarding the rest of your comment – I don’t think you should succumb to societal ideas of when it’s too young to marry. It’s more about the maturity of the people involved and what their financial stability and other life circumstances are like than their age. The reason marriages started at later ages are statistically more successful is because the people getting married at those ages are more likely to be mature or take marriage seriously and be developed in terms of what they want and their personality. But some people are mature in those areas in their early 20s, while for others it takes them many more years. It may be true that you’re not ready now, I’m just saying it’s not best to put off looking for a serious relationship or marriage – if that’s what you eventually want – for many more years just because of cultural opinion. And also it’s still not that rare for people to get married in their mid 20s in the US. In the meantime I’d suggest educating yourself on relationships, compatibility, various psychological topics, personality, etc if necessary. It’s also necessary to get to know yourself so that way you can attract the right person and know what you’re looking for and what personality etc you have. Seeking marriage because one is struggling with burning lust and sexual desires is also not an inherently bad reason – it’s bad if that’s the ONLY goal one has in marriage of course, but it’s perfectly fine and realistic if that’s one of the primary reasons one is seeking marriage – that’s exactly what Paul says in that Corinthians verse “it is better to marry than to burn with passion.” And IMO just because you’re not entitled to something doesn’t mean you can’t take steps towards that something, as long as that something is good. Knowing you’re not entitled to that something just means you stay humble about it and try to count your blessings

      • At 74 I have finally found a man I think I want to be with for the rest of my life and he is 77.. we are planning on traveling together he is Catholic… I am Christian and we both have conflicts about our sexual desires. Both of us have been married. We are leaning toward being together without marriage…yes for financial reasons. Will Gid forgive us if we proceed?

        • God clearly states that homosexual relationships are outside his plan. “Do not be deceived: neither the sexually immoral, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor men who practice homosexuality, nor thieves, nor the greedy, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor swindlers will inherit the kingdom of God.” (1Co 6:9, 10 ESV) In Heb 6:4-6 he warns believers against deliberately turning their backs against Truth. “For it is impossible, in the case of those who have once been enlightened, who have tasted the heavenly gift, and have shared in the Holy Spirit, and have tasted the goodness of the word of God and the powers of the age to come, and then have fallen away, to restore them again to repentance, since they are crucifying once again the Son of God to their own harm and holding him up to contempt.” (Heb 6:4-6 ESV) I’ll let you answer your own question…

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  14. Patrick Vacchiano

    The answer to overcoming our sinful nature is.. you won’t and can’t because the flesh is an enemy of God.(read Romans)
    For your own peace of mind and a Joyous heart, embrace the peace that Jesus has left us with, and that is We are loved because our spirit dwells within the Beloved of our blessed saviour Jesus Christ and not any longer a slave wanting to serve to sin, because our heart desires to serve God and not the flesh.
    God knows this battle and has given us the way out of guilt and condemnation for our sins, and yes he Loves us so much as little children that he chastises us when we do sin, and still gracefully forgives us.
    Warning tho! do not be deceived by the freedom we have been granted..He is just and righteous to forgive us our sins, however God will not be mocked. Watch yourself carefully and be diligent for the adversary waits prowling around ready to devour you.
    We have been gracefully and undeservedly ssved thru faith in trusting what Jesus the Christ has done for us “Thankyou Lord” Father God allows all wickedness set before us, knowing that for those faithfull sheep that hear Jesus’ voice and desire to serve God in the spirit of truth, will come running eagerly to him with a humble gratefull and loving thankfull heart to the shelter of his goodness mercy and eternal unconditional love because all he looks at is Jesus Christ in us…You are so beloved in Christ…HALLELUJAH AND AMEN…

  15. I am happy I found this site. I am a single woman, not given to lust or illicit thoughts, yet every few months, I have a sudden onset of sexual desire. It’s nuts, really. It can go on for days. I can’t concentrate or get rid of this without a release. I am trying to speak delicately of this. I don’t burn with lust, I just want it to stop.
    I pray and ask forgiveness. But why does this happen?

    • It is difficult to answer your question about why this happens to you, without more information. However I don’t suggest sharing that on a public forum and appreciate how you have handled your comment. It might be better for you to call our toll-free number. We have good Christian brothers answering the phone and they would be glad to share with you and pray for you. Call 833.678.7884 and press 0 at the prompt and wait for the next available person. Or if you prefer, leave a note here (don’t include your email address — I already have that) I can email you an address where you can get in touch with me. LB

      • Here’s one with no excuses! You ready?
        I’m a 40 year old male Christian who is bisexual and i’ve been without any sexual contact since January 1st. I started church and i have met some really great people and i’m not looking for any relationships at all. Just friendships and intimacy with God and him alone. I however do get lonely and i am very attractive and am im great shape. It so terrible but i turn myself on and feel the need to relieve myself at least once a week. I do find by keeping myself busy that i don’t think about sex as much but of course i fall into those moments where i know i can’t be with anyone because i know i will hurt someone. I know this is so disgusting but i can’t help but do this evil act. Please don’t beat me up just pray that i can move on from this. Aside from my behavior i love people and i have converted many people to Christ in the past few months. I haven’t put any moves on anyone i just help them find faith in Christ. I’m almost sure i should just continue to help others and forget about marriage because how would that work anyway? I’m so sorry i’m this way! 🙁

        • Okay, I won’t beat you up and I believe you’ve been honest. But I also believe that God has better things for you. Keep listening to Him, and reading his word. Memorize Bible verses and stay away from the bathroom mirror while you’re undressed.

    • Hi ‘Lady’…seems a strange way to address a woman, rather crass one might say. But oh well, we’re all looking for healing. I want to encourage you to maintain your purity, it is worth more than rivers of gold in Abba’s eyes… I too struggle with the same thing but I am relieved to say that today I celebrate my 75th day porn and masturbation free. No software, no accountability partner (people here in South Africa – even men) get very uncomfortable when this ‘taboo’ subject is discussed, so I’ve gone it alone, cold turkey. Just Jesus and me. You can do it Ma’am. If I can do it at age 62, so can you…

      • Thank you for your encouragement.
        A lady is a woman who is poised, controlled and has good manners. Not crass in my vocabulary.

  16. “When we give God control we can enjoy freedom from sin”. This makes it sound so easy which only frustrates me even more! God created us with desires, incredibly strong desires, some people kill to fulfill their desires, but says just live for Him. God knew the future and He made us this way anyway!? I’m so frustrated with God I could scream! Im a 47 year old male by the way. I wish I was never born! I didn’t ask for these desires or to be born or to keep living. I have asked many times to be unmade or to be blessed with stage four cancer. This life is aweful. God loves us… but don’t you dare sin! The Bible says get married. How many relationships have I heard of that are sexless or divorced. The problems can just keep getting worse. God put us in a mess! Why?! And look, even suicide is a sin. In this modern day world, when we are born, we might as well be handed a note that says, “good luck!” I want to opt out of this horrible world. I think God is mean! I have been going to church most of my life and I know the Bible well. And whats my statement after being alive this long? I wish I was dead! I cannot believe that God could make this world and people and satan. And I sick of being deceive by Christians! Man was not cursed when he ate the fruit, he was cursed when he was put in paradise with lucifer! And how can paradise be paradise if satan is there? How unfair God was! And God knew what would happen! It didn’t have to be THIS way! Another curse. Making us men logical and women emotional! What a disaster. Look what we have to work with as humans. What a mess. I’m angry because I cannot live up the standards God has set for me. I’m angry because I will probably end up in hell. I wish I was never born! I don’t want to sin, but I will. I would have thought God would have made things different because from what it looks like hell is going to be packed. Living for God is not easy. LIVING FOR GOD IS NOT EASY. ITS ALL TOO MUCH FOR ME. ILL BE GLAD WHEN ITS OVER, HEAVEN OR HELL. I JUST WANT TO BE OUT OF THIS MESS OF WONDERING IF GOD IS EVER GOING TO HELP ME.

    • Life can become tough. Is God ever going to help you? He will, if you allow Him to. Take some time to think about the words of this old familiar song.

      Does Jesus care when my heart is pained
      Too deeply for mirth or song,
      As the burdens press, and the cares distress,
      And the way grows weary and long?

      Does Jesus care when my way is dark
      With a nameless dread and fear?
      As the daylight fades into deep night shades,
      Does He care enough to be near?

      Does Jesus care when I’ve tried and failed
      To resist some temptation strong;
      When for my deep grief there is no relief,
      Though my tears flow all the night long?

      Does Jesus care when I’ve said “goodbye”
      To the dearest on earth to me,
      And my sad heart aches till it nearly breaks—
      Is it aught to Him? Does He see?

      Oh, yes, He cares, I know He cares,
      His heart is touched with my grief;
      When the days are weary, the long nights dreary,
      I know my Savior cares.

      Also note Mat 11:28-30 “Come to Me, all you who labor and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest.  (29)  Take My yoke upon you and learn from Me, for I am gentle and lowly in heart, and you will find rest for your souls.  (30)  For My yoke is easy and My burden is light.”

  17. Masterbation is not a sin or is it? I don’t think it is in fact i think it hlep with lust

    • I know that in today’s pleasure seeking world, habits like masturbation are often excused or even exalted. Yet the Bible only gives one outlet for sexual desire–marriage. And even in marriage, sex is not for my gratification but for my spouse’s. One big thing that makes masturbation wrong is that it is utterly selfish. Another is, even though many people try to deny this, masturbation is intrinsically tied to lust. Rather than eliminating lust from out lives a regular practice of masturbation increases out lust level. It will finally take it to the point that, like any other addiction, it is almost uncontrollable.

    • Appendix: Our Lady of Fatima, Hell, and Sins Against Chastity
      “Broad is the way that leads to destruction, and many there are who go in that way” (Mt
      7.13). Hell has then different gates, but these gates stand on our earth. “Her gates are
      sunk into the ground.” (Lam 2.9) These are the vices by which men offend God, and
      draw down upon themselves chastisements and eternal death. Among the other vices,
      there are four which send most souls to Hell, and on this earth bring upon men the
      scourges of God; and these four are, HATRED, BLASPHEMY, THEFT, and IMPURITY.
      Behold, the four gates by which the greater number of souls enter Hell; and it is of these
      four that I mean to speak today, in order that you may amend and cure yourselves of
      these four vices, otherwise God will cure you of them, but by your own destruction. (See
      “The Four Gates of Hell” at archive.org)
      1. Hell’s Widest Gate: Impurity
      We have now to speak of the fourth gate of Hell, which is impurity [sexual sins], and it is
      by this gate that the greater number of the damned enter. Some will say that it is a trifling
      sin. Is it a trifling sin? It is a mortal sin. St. Antoninus writes that such is the
      nauseousness of this sin that the devils themselves cannot endure it. Moreover, the
      Doctors of the Church say that certain demons, who have been superior to the rest,
      remembering their ancient dignity, disdain tempting to so loathsome a sin. Consider then
      how disgusting he must be to God, who, like a dog, is ever returning to his vomit, or
      wallowing like a pig in the stinking mire of this accursed vice (2 Pet 2.22).

  18. Wow it’s really refreshing to know i am not alone, i am 25 years old and still a virgin but i have so much sexual urge. I have tried different things to help the situation but nothing has helped. I dabbled into pornography and masturbation to help reduce the urge but i end up feeling guilty and losing my peace.how do I deal with this situation, how do I quell this feelings and still honor God.

    • Indulging in porn and masturbation leads to an increase in desire rather than aleviating it. Join an accountability group, do Christian service, read your Bible, pray. The point is to get busy doing good things so that the desire for evil is outweighed in your life. Memorize Bible promises about victory so that you can mediate on them when the desire tends to overwhelm you.

  19. Ive been a follower of Crist for almost 20 years now. My wife of 15 years cheated on me a year ago, i turned to God, back to God and recommited my life to Him its been awesome, God is good. Ive tried to move past this, i love my wife and told her i forgive her but she wont give up her relationship with her “friend”, againts my will we are getting a divorce, i dont want to but i can see she doesnt want to be married to me anymore, shes made that very clear. A few times we’ve had sex, i have a very strong sexual desire and tell myself it ok because she is still my wife, i feel i should stop since we are getting a divorce, but its really difficult for me. Im searching for help to fill my desire for intimacy, not just sex, but tender touching, holding hands, ect. Im a really touchy feely guy, im Praying God fulfills that desire, but im struggleling hard.

    • I’m a 29 year old single Christian woman. Always thought that I would be married by now. I’m still hoping God will come through even though I know he didn’t promise me that. But I’ve seen him bring my friends wonderful companions. I can’t seem to meet men that are on the same page with me about premarital sex. Most of the men who attend church are already married. I want a man who truly loves and fears Jesus, but I also want us to be physically attracted to each other. I meet plenty of guys who meet the physical attraction, but not the spiritual needs. It’s extremely frustrating. And I do agree with the other person who is tired of the “Sunday School response.” This is why I stopped asking people at church (especially married people) about how to help my situation. It only made me angrier when I received dismissive and insensitive replies. God in his grace has given me other single Christian female friends who understand my desires and frustrations completely. So it gives me comfort to know that I’m not alone. The sexual desire is becoming even harder to deal with as well as the loneliness. I just wanted to comment to let others know you’re not alone.

      • What is True Love? The Truth About Real Love According To The Bible. True Love. Man desires a woman like a rose. As soon as a man embraces a woman he damages her petals. For a man, the greatest and true attraction of a woman is her chastity.
        A man’s heart is stirred, not his body. Woman, do you want to be desired by a man’s body or his heart? It is chastity that attracts his heart. If a woman uses her body to attract, she only arouses a man physically. Woman, do you want to enchant a man with your body or your heart ?
        ​A chaste woman attracts a man with her heart. A restrained woman’s beauty is her charm, wisdom and beauty. A man can really love only a chaste woman.
        So, woman, if you want to have a serious relationship, you should want to be loved and not used.
        ​You need to make chastity your greatest attraction – it is a gift and not a possession.
        If you have lost your purity, you can regain it like St Mary Magdalene. It is called Magdalene’s virginity.The same principles of purity also apply to men.

        • Unfortunately, many men in Christian communities value looks above heart. Many times I have been told by Christian guys that they highly respect me, but that they don’t think of me in “that way” or say I’m too big or tall for them. I’m 27 years old this year and have never dated. I had to turn down guys in the past who were not Christian and were twice my age, I don’t understand why Christian guys don’t see me in “that way” even to just date.
          True I’m a bigger gal, but I have been a very healthy weight when Christian guys have rejected me. And some of these Christian guys aren’t ripped models either, but they always end up dating and marrying smaller, shorter, skinnier girls. It really hurts my heart to be constantly turned down when I very much want a good husband and loving family. I long for human connection and pure intimacy, praying and begging God for a good, loving husband. I struggle so much with sexual desire and have managed to remain a virgin, and spent much time doing what I though God wanted me in ministering to others. But I still struggle and burn.
          Unfortunately, even though God has a perfect plan for each of us and the world, He also gave us free choice out of His love for us. Bad and wrong choices can be made that effect others. No, it’s not God’s perfect plan, but He knew what choices would be made and weeps with and for us. Even though things in life don’t go “right” and we hurt beyond words can say, He can make beauty from our ashes and turn mourning into song. I’ve added wrong choices in life that have hurt other people, and I do believe God’s desire is for me to be married and have a family, but another person is involved with that plan as well. It is up to another person whether they will make a choice in that direction.

      • For God to live in your hearts , you must love 

      • This helps me a lot. These last few months has really been agonizing for me. I have an accountability partner but even speaking to them is just weird as this topic is considered taboo in our day an age. It is good to know what I am going through is actually normal.

      • Just A brother

        You are truly being honest, and I must say, God knows you more than you know yourself, take the time you still have single to do the most you’ve ever done for God, because surely the time of your rejoicing is nearer than you think. Remember God is faithful

  20. You do the same thing that everybody else does. You give the same Sunday School answers with no real solution. You make it sound like it’s so easy. You just say no to sexual urges like it’s so simple, and it’s not.I have been looking for the answer for years on how I am supposed to handle being single, a Christian, and being someone with a very high sex drive for the longest time. But every time I asked the question, how am I supposed to deal with being single and a Christian and having a high sexual drive, I get the same Sunday school answers. It’s always pray, read your Bible more keep busy. Stuff like that. I’m tired of it. I want some REAL answers, and you’ve done the same thing everybody else is done, give me nothing. I’m not trying to be rude or disrespectful oh, I’m just frustrated as heck. So if you don’t know the answer, then say so. But don’t lead people on like your going to give them answer and then don’t.

    We all know what the Bible says about lust and premarital sex and stuff like that. We don’t need to hear that again. Just answer the question if you have an answer that isn’t the same dry useless unhelpful answer. Don’t give the Sunday School basic lesson with no real help for anybody. That’s the problem with church. A lot of talk, and they don’t say anything.

    • @Mark, Thanks for sharing your frustration. I’m sorry that you didn’t find this post helpful. I think that what you are missing is a personal relationship with Christ. Many people try to obey the “laws” of the Bible in hopes of avoiding hell and getting to heaven. That isn’t the point, and even if you were able to coerce yourself into living in victory, it wouldn’t be enough. What Jesus wants is for you to serve Him because you love him, because you don’t want to disappoint him. Invite Him to control your life. Spend time in reading the gospels and invite Him to speak to you through them. Not as a way to get to heaven, but as a way to build up a relationship. Tell Him how you feel. Give your whole heart to Him. Then look for some friends who are doing the same thing and spend time fellowshipping with them. Tell them your struggles. They probably have had similar ones. Hold each other accountable. But don’t do it as a way to buy your entrance into heaven. You’ll never do that, because eternal life is a gift from God, one that you will never deserve. If you’d like to take this further, leave a note here and I’ll send you an email address we can use. Or call the toll free number in the heading.

      • LB You just said everything Mark said you would say. You never gave him a clear answer. What Mark was saying is he has basically done all those things and he is still burning with desire. So now he is in a catch 22. I also agree with him. I’m love my God with everything. And yes he does keep the desire down to a minimum most of the time. Paul made it sound like here let me run down to the marriage Store and get a wife to fix this issue. It’s not 2000 years ago. We can’t go buy a wife basically like they did back then. So now he is left in sin. So all I’m saying is maybe think before giving a fellow brother a canned answer. Love you much.

        • I don’t think God ever promised to take away our sinful desires. Instead, He promised to give us grace and strength to deal with them. Do you have any idea how I agonize over these questions at times? I know as well as anyone how real these battles are and I do not give out canned answers. But finally, life is life and the only way to deal with life is by taking God’s directions.

    • I’m a Christian woman who made the decision to wait on God for a Christian husband. When I made the decision, working in a Christian bookstore almost 22 years ago, little did I realiz the torture ahead for my emotions. It has been hell at times having these desires and not having the answer God promised when I made the decision to wait for Him to give me His choice. I LOVE the Lord and have a close relationship with Him, read the Bible every day, focus on Him, listen to Christian sermons daily, attend church, run on treadmill, sing on praise team at church, serve Him in various ways, however I TOTALLY relate to this post from the guy, people who are married have no business or compassion towards those who are told to not have sex and just get your mind off of it. You try going 22 years with no sex, then and only then do you have the right to give me or anyone else advice. God help you to have mercy on others.Hod bless you, but you just don’t understand us. Forgive me for my frustrations.

      • I get these replies a lot. GOD PROMISED ME…. God doesn’t make promises like that. At least not very often. Normally those “promises” come from our own desires and dreams. We persuade ourselves that God has promised something we want very badly. What God does promise is strength for each day. He doesn’t demand anything from us that it isn’t possible to fulfill.

    • Funny I also came here for wisdom. I’m sorry writer but it doesn’t help. I’m 34, I could nearly boast I have had good sexual controlthese number of years. I never understood the craze for sexual desire, until now the feeling is insane. Most of these essays show we don’t understand these things or that we are too scared to put out there what is not factually written in the bible.
      I’m not lusting after anyone, I am not in any relationship, but i feel really lonely and want to gratify myself so i can focus properly on life. Ever wonder why the bible asks married couple never to deny one another except for a moment? Because it’s not easy to burn. Burning is extremely distracting, but praying, studying will neget remove those desires…It’s an energy that ought to be harnessed that needs to be dissipated somewhere if not in marriage…It’s not as simply as these essays.

      • There is no magic formula to give victory. Only the desire for a relationship with Christ can outweigh the desires for sexual pleasure. Other things can help: Christian fellowship, Bible study, accountability groups, etc. But finally it boils down to walking with Jesus.

    • Hey Mark. I see your point but what “answer” do you want? Being single as a Christian is tough and there’s no way around that. The author is giving you a biblical answer and we’re just going to have to accept that, if we are striving to defeat our flesh.

      There is no “solution” other than to fight via hobbies, exercise, prayer and /or work.

      I’m single + I am saving myself for marriage. I sometimes want to give up but I just continue to fight the good fight. I’m in my late 20’s btw so I can relate.

      We need to stop expecting some miraculous feel good answer because sexual desire is part of humanity .

    • As a person with your same desires and frustration, I can say that Prayer did work. At first it was difficult and frustrating. I would cry and ask the Lord to help me, my desires were much stronger then me. The day came I no longer felt that burning desire? I couldn’t understand what happened. Certain things would trigger those feelings. I would come across those things and I didn’t feel that anymore? I thought it was just a momentary thing. I came across things that reminded me of my ex and our passionate relationship that I missed very much.. I no longer had those desires! I Prayed very much. I truly wanted to be liberated from that. I Prayed with a broken but sincere heart. Talk to the Lord and ask him for help. He will help you.

  21. HI. You’ve been through a lot my friend. Trust what scripture says and not your feelings. God forgives when you ask Him and turn away from sin. That theme runs through the Bible from beginning to end. Jesus clearly said, “whoever comes to me I will in no wise turn away.” Your are not outside of Gods’ grace.

    He also said, “whoever believes and is baptized will be saved.” It seems to me that you believe and that you’ve repented. Have you been baptized? If not, then do it. Start your relationship with God anew, find a church family, and enjoy forgiveness.

    Don’t know if I can sneak my email in here, but feel free to write me if you want to chat. It’s pescatenkara@gmail. You don’t have to do this alone. My name is Brett by the way.

  22. It’s never too late to turn to God and his love as long as we are alive here on earth

  23. I lived in sexual sin, most all of my life. I had called on the Lord in my 20’s because I had a drug overdose that ended up making me no-polar. I then thought it would be better to get married so I wouldn’t be fornicating. My wife was very sweet. I then discovered later that she had been lying to me about her former lovers, who turned out to be close past friends of mine. I went totally out of my mind.. It caused a nervous breakdown, and verbal abuse. I became so angry, that I became PTSD. I lost all feelings for her. Eventually we broke up and I began committing adultery. And porn.. We finally got back together, but I have no feelings. Now I am older, and realize that I am not justified in the way I acted and had left God. I had been in sin so long..
    Now I’m 66yrs old and becoming mentally ill. I know I am facing hell. I feel like God has had enough, and has finally cut me off. I cannot sense His Holy Spirit, tho I try and try to call out, in repentance. It has made me mad. I know not what to do. I pray and ask for prayer for God’s mercy. I do not deserve it, but I want to know and believe in Jesus as Savior. Satan has really messed me up now. I know I have caused a lot of pain (I went and asked forgiveness). I want to stop the hardness of my heart, and my pride. I feel God is so angry. Would you please pray for my deliverance?

    • Hi, Thanks for sharing. I want to assure you that God loves. He is not angry with you and He wants to renew his relationship with you. But it sounds to me like you should consider seeing a Christian counsellor to give you some help. Or call our toll-free line at 1-855-367-8788 and talk with one of our Phone Team. They would be happy to talk with you and pray for you. God bless you in your journey.

    • Hi everyone. Thank you for all your posts. It’s the first time I read about how other believers feel regarding sexual desires. I’m studying about it more and more.

      I was married for a long time and my husband who was much older, 16 years older didn’t show affection or intimacy much at all. My love language is physical touch and I have a high sex drive, not because I fed it so much but I remember it started at a very young age like 12.

      I am separated and left the church for many reasons , mainly anger that I did everything right and the marriage was a failure. 15 years of a painful bit of hell on earth. I got very ill, hospitalised by the end. I had no choice die, kill or leave. ( but the Lord! He is always right and good)

      Anyway I became a born again Christian many years ago, water baptised at 21 got married at 18. I received the gift of tongues and the Holy Spirit. It was a very exciting conversion and I fell in love and still am in love with the Lord.

      I like most of you here have to live with this torment of burning desires of carnal pleasures. I don’t know what to do other than what I’ve done for years on and off. I feel it’s like a food diet. I start and I can do a year but then I relapse. Get fat again feel good and try again. I have let go and given up many times. I got back to church a few months ago and I want support.

      One thing I feel and believe is that it has a lot to do with the learning to be filled with the Holy Spirit. Learning to have self- control and to not make provision for the flesh Maybe we could all organise a group and talk about it. Maybe the Lord can provide a strategy specifically for each and everyone of us that have a high sex drive. I’m considering medication by the way. It’s better to do that than to catch stds, break hearts, unplanned pregnancies, get married to the wrong person to quickly get sex drive sorted. Above all better than not doing the Lord’s work and not representing him lovingly to others. I feel sex control can save so much hurt in the world!! It’s frustrating but when we are weak the Lord is strong! He knows our condemning hearts!

      Let me know!! By the way, anyone in here that knows how to get an anonymous chat group started?

      Peace and joy

      In Christ

      Me

      • All the posts here concern unmarried men and women who are burning with desire and are trying to find the answer to quit lusting and masturbating to control the strong sexual urges. The Bible says to marry. After my wife of 33 years passed away I remarried within 7 months to a Christian lady. I have been a Christian for more than 40 years. I Study my Bible and pray. My situation is unlike any I’ve read here. After marriage my wife would not allow us to have sex. My need for intimacy is out of control and I have discussed this with her at length and we both have attended counseling sessions for months but no change has taken place. I have been married now for 9 years and masturbate to control my urges but it only helps temporarily. She was a widow and her dying husband had asked he to do things for him that make her feel like a prostitude for over one year til he died. She cannot stand even the thought of sex because of that experience. Thank all of you for your comments. Just realize marriage is not always the panacea to solving the sexual urges. Be careful what you wish for and spend enough time to really get to know that potential mate.

        • Thanks JL for sharing this. I fear that masturbating is just increasing your desires and making life harder for you. I would encourage you to take steps to help you to gain victory. The ideal would be for your wife to do her part (see 1 Cor 7:1-5), but that doesn’t seem to be an option.

      • I felt someone would have helped create even if it’s a WhatsApp group where we can all come out unashamed and share what we’ve been passing through, and possible ways of helping each other overcome this message. The Bible gave is clear example why 2 or more people wins a battle faster than one.this is my email and would love to start that maybe probably on WhatsApp but will not be a public group

        • This is one reason we strongly encourage struggling people to get involved in a Biblical church. A Biblical church will offer this kind of help to its members. While a WhatsApp group may help, face to face contact is better. We will, if asked, help people to find a church.

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